No matter who you are or what you’re into, if bondage is involved there is one way to make sure your bottom is secured. Tickle them.
Many many years ago I had a small discussion with a dominant who said he didn’t quite understand my interest in tickling or how it could fit into bondage and bdsm. More traditional, his interest was in spanking and other pain related aspects. He believed that tickling was not intense or hardcore, and probably not “serious” as bdsm should be. Well, bdsm and seriousness is a different discussion so we’ll not go that route. But actually, after listening a bit, I heard from him a couple of weeks later.
He said that he tried it with his sub when he was testing a new bondage tie and that she found being tickled very intense.
I explained to him that generally speaking, pain is expected from a bound bottom. Not only that, but they can, in a sense, mentally prepare for it. Most times, they know where it will be on their body. They can brace for it physically or willingly submit their body and mind to it. In either case, they maintain some level of control. This is true of consensual play only though. I don’t mean to imply that someone being whipped or caned against their will for torture or punishment has control of their reactions. But in those cases, the severity is such where there is literal physical harm.
To any ticklish person however, the sensation causes an immediate loss of control. The body will react involuntarily. Even the majority of highly ticklish people who really love being tickled are unable to control their body’s physical response to defend itself from the sensation and prefer to be restrained in some way so that they cannot stop the intense sensation they want to experience. Now, consider the bottom is highly ticklish but does NOT truly desire it as a tickling fetish ticklee does. Their body wants to rebel to make the sensation stop IMMEDIATELY, and most very ticklish people who don’t enjoy it will immediately vocalize their displeasure or inability to handle being tickled. “Please” and “Stop” are likely to be screamed, and this is the case even though no harm or pain is happening to them at all.
I’m told that ticklishness is such an intense sensation for many lifestyle practicing submissives that they list it as a hard limit above all other things.
I’m willing to bet that if a sub/bottom were tied spread eagle and blindfolded wearing a heart monitor, and were then told they would have their bottom reddened by a paddle, the heart rate might elevate a bit with some excitement, nervousness, or arousal.
But in the same situation, if they were told they were about to be mercilessly tickled, the heart rate would jump off the charts with anxiety.
Any contradictory or supporting thoughts?